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#ROUGH_SEX

There’s a lot of rough sex in porn and wider media now, and since porn is basically used as sex-ed these days, it makes sense to be curious or want to give stuff you’ve seen a go!

The thing is, there’s a massive difference between rough sex in porn and real-life sex…..so if you want to learn more or try something out, here’s the lowdown first…

#LEARN
TIPS/TOOLS
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TALK/TEXT

TALK/TEXT

YOUTHLINE

24/7 free service designed just for youth. You can call or text to talk about big or small stuff.

Anonymous online chat 7-10pm.
Freephone: 0800 376 633
Text: 234
www.youthline.co.nz

ARE YOU OK?

This website has great info on experiencing violence, using violence, warning signs, strategies and success stories. There’s an info line on services for anyone experiencing or witnessing violence or wanting to change.

Freephone: 0800 456 450
www.areyouok.org.nz

Tautoko Mai

Regional Bay of Plenty service that provides individual sexual harm support and support for friends or whānau affected by sexual harm.

Freephone: 0800 2B SAFE 24/7
www.tautokomai.co.nz

Man Alive

Man Alive provides non-judgmental support, education, workshops and counselling for young men struggling with aggression. They also run Te Ara Taumata Ora, for Maori youth.

Freephone: 0800 826 367
www.manalive.nz

Safe to Talk

If you’ve been affected by sexual harm or are worried about your own behaviour, Safe to Talk provide great 24/7 confidential non-judgmental support and advice with trained counsellors.

Anonymous online chat 24/7.
Freephone: 0800 044 334
Text: 4334
Website/online chat: www.safetotalk.co.nz
Email: [email protected]

Safe Network

If you are worried about your sexual behaviour, or someone else’s, SAFE work with people with problematic sexual behaviours and have specialist services for young people, Māori and Pasifika youth.

Phone: 09 377 9898
www.safenetwork.org.nz
Email: [email protected]

WellStop

WellStop is a community-based organisation that aims to prevent sexual abuse. If you are unsure about your own thoughts or behaviour, or are concerned about the behaviour of someone you know, contact us.

Phone: 04 566 4745
www.wellstop.org.nz

Hey bro

24/7 free, confidential helpline for men who feel they are going to harm a loved one or whānau member. The team of experienced men will help support you and connect you with services.

Freephone: 0800HEYBRO
hewakatapu.org.nz

STOP

Christchurch, Nelson, Dunedin and Invercargill community-based services for children, adolescents and adults with concerning or harmful sexual behaviours.

Phone: 03 353 0257
[email protected]
www.stop.org.nz

NETSAFE

Netsafe is a free confidential 24/7 online safety helpline that offers support, legal info and advice on online issues.

Freephone: 
0508 NETSAFE

Text: 4284
8am-8pm weekdays
9am-5pm weekends.

Online report: Reporting Harmful Content

Website: netsafe.org.nz

Enabling Youth

Christchurch and Timaru service providing supportive non-violence education programmes for young people to help develop safe ways to deal with frustration, stress and anger.

Phone: 03 365 6266
www.enablingyouth.co.nz

“In porn, we see a lot of just strange content, you know, that’s oversaturated with things like a lot of aggression and a lot of non-consensual stuff… And I think definitely creates weird expectations for people who don’t know much about sex.”
– NZ MALE, 18 YRS