Since porn is basically used as sex-ed these days, it makes sense to want to give stuff you’ve seen a go. The thing is, there’s a massive difference between what porn actors do and real-life sex. The rougher stuff in porn can actually be really painful – but actors are paid to look ‘into it’. In real life, lots of people don’t enjoy rough sex – so if you’re wanting to try something, make sure you go through the checklist next.

If you or your partner are keen to try some rough sex, here’s a ‘quick check list' to go through first… Read more

If you’re needing rougher or more extreme porn and/or sex to get turned on and it’s making you uncomfortable (or even if it’s not), you may want to get some support from the pros HERE. That might feel awkward – but they’re here to help - and getting it off your chest and letting others help you can be life-changing. If you want to keep it anonymous, there are also great help lines in Talk/Text.

If your sexual partner/s are continually not enjoying what you’re into; you find yourself in sexual situations where the other person isn’t into it; or you’re keen to play out some fantasies that have a higher risk of causing harm – you might need some help from the pros. Check out SAFE TO TALK and the Struggling with feelings of sexually aggression tips.

Lots of people don’t like rough sex – and it’s totally okay to not like it, and to tell a partner you’re not into it. For some people, rough sex can be very traumatic, especially if it was unexpected, frightening or when communication was unclear. When sex acts are unwanted, you feel pressured, or you don’t consent; this is sexual assault. This can feel extra confusing if consent was blurred and/or you like the person – so it’s super important to reach out and get some help processing it.

If you want more info on rough sex check out our LEARN section with the full lowdown including the deets on legal and sexual stuff.