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Hi there! if you want some help around nudes, you’re in the right place!
Sending nudes can feel like part of a ‘normal relationship’ – but things can get tricky quickly.
If you’re figuring out whether to send a nude, received one you didn’t want, or had one shared without consent, here’s some tips to help you out…
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What is a Nude?

A photo of a person showing part or all of their nude body.

Can I send someone my own nude without asking them first?
  • It’s best not to ​- always check before you hit send, because..
  • If you’re over 16yrs and send a surprise nude to someone under 16yrs – you can get yourself in a bit of a legal jam because this is illegal under the New Zealand law.
  • If you send nudes to someone who doesn’t want them – this could be counted as ‘harassment’ under The Harmful Digital Communications Act.
  • If you’ve already sent a nude to someone without asking them and are freaking out – talk to Netsafe, they’re the pros and can offer free confidential advice.

Interesting Fact: A NZ Netsafe study showed that females were more likely to report unwanted digital communication than males – and non-heterosexual young adults were more likely to be targeted.

 

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Can I share someone else’s nudes/videos?

If you want to share or trade someone else’s nudes, here’s some things to consider before you hit SEND:

  •  Consent  – First be 100% sure the person is all good with it (i.e. given their full consent).
  •  Once you’ve hit SEND, you can’t unsend  – If the person in the pic hasn’t consented, it can be super damaging for them. And you. Word can get out, people can be hurt, a lot of damage can be done, and people can talk smack . They can also contact whoever they want – your family, your teachers or the police to try and get it removed.
  •  Regret  – Even if the person consents at the time, they also might regret it later. Nudes are super personal and its really common for people to change their mind or regret sending nudes. So, if you want to play it safe, don’t share.
  • Age Alert  – Sharing nudes with anyone under 16; if you’re 16 or over; or if the person in the pic is under 16 is illegal under the harmful digital communications act. If you’ve already shared a nude, contact Netsafe for help.

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Saying a straight up NO to someone when they ask you to send nudes can feel like you’re just flipping them the bird.

This app has a bunch of funny GIFS so you can have a more friendly response, whilst still making it clear that it’s a No.

“I think that there is a high pressure to post revealing pictures – just to fit in or to show our bodies in order to get likes or get friends or boyfriends”
Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020

What if I’ve already shared someone’s nude without their consent?

Here’s some steps you can take:

  • Delete the nude ASAP.
  • Contact the people/platforms you’ve shared it with and ask them to delete it.
  • Contact Netsafe if you can’t take it down yourself.
  • Talk to a trusted friend or adult.
Can I get my nude removed from a site?    

If your nude is somewhere you don’t want – there’s some great help out there:

Here’s some links to reporting sections:

Screenshot where you’ve seen your image and save the URLs.

Here’s some links to reporting sections:

“I think that there is a high pressure to post revealing pictures – just to fit in or to show our bodies in order to get likes or get friends or boyfriends”
Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020

How do I safely send a nude/video?

If you’re sure you want to send a nude, you’ve considered the points in thinking about sending nudes and you trust the person you’re sending it to (now and later), there’s a few things you can do to lower the risk…

  • Keep your face out of the pic. This way, if it ends up being shared, other people may not know it’s you.
  • Make sure there’s nothing in the image that identifies you like your room, your house, your clothing or a mirror in the background (duh).
  • Tell the person you send it to that you don’t want (consent to) it being shared with anyone or posted anywhere. This might still happen, but it’s good to be clear.

More questions about Nudes? Check out: Icon or Netsafe

What’s “revenge porn”?

“Revenge porn” is a term used when someone shares a nude or video without the person’s consent or is using it against them, to control them, to bully them, as blackmail or as a threat. People with a physical disability and LGBTIQ+ young people are more likely to experience revenge porn, which is not okay(8).

If this sounds like what you’re experiencing, talk to a trusted friend and call the Pros at Netsafe for support and to talk though options. For LGBTIQ+ friendly services reach out to Rainbow YOUTH and OUTline.

“If nude images do get leaked, who can we go to? Parents are often very disappointed – even though it was most likely pressured.” — NZ young person

“If nude images do get leaked, who can we go to? Parents are often very disappointed – even though it was most likely pressured.” —Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020