Porn affecting your

your mental health & body image?

Kia ora! Porn and online sexual stuff is everywhere – and it can sometimes mess with your body image!

Comparing your body or sexual performance to what’s online can be brutal for your body image – because, let’s be honest, none of us look like porn stars 😉. If you think porn might be impacting your body image or your general headspace – here’s some tools to help out…

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Porn and mental health

The experts tell us that watching lots of porn can sometimes impact our mental health. This depends on how much porn someone’s watching, what type of porn they watch and how they feel about their own usage.

Some young people say they have a healthy relationship with porn and don’t experience any mental health impacts, and others find porn is really impacting them.

People who feel a lot of shame about their usage or have strong cultural or religious backgrounds where there are big taboos around porn, are more likely to experience some mental health effects.

Porn, the brain & ‘addiction’?

Porn can make us feel great when we’re watching it, so it’s normal to want to go back to get that feeling again. The more we do this, our brain can associate porn with good feelings – and start a pattern of using or needing porn to feel good or manage negative feelings. For some people this can become a habit that’s hard to break and can result in wider negative impacts. For example, it’s pretty common for young porn viewers in NZ to want to cut back on how much they watch, but struggle to (5).

Some young people say they feel ‘addicted’ to porn – this usually means they feel uncomfortable about their porn use or they’ve got a habit they’re struggling with 😔 (check this out) If you’re worried about your own porn use, click HERE.

Porn and body image

It’s super normal to compare ourselves to what we see in porn, but it’s not always helpful. Many young people struggle to live up to the body images in porn… like ‘big this’ or ‘small that’. Check out this article on body image and porn.

“They just looked so perfect and it made me think, ‘My G*d, this is what guys are seeing and I do not look anything like this.’ It just made me feel so sad.”
FEMALE, 15, OFLC research
“I think all genders think that (porn) is what sex is. Girls my age feel the need to shave all pubic hair because that’s what is in porn and that is what is considered normal. Boys feel that they should take charge in sexual situations and have to “last” as long as porn stars.” FEMALE, 16, OFLC research
Porn and body size – the lowdown on what’s real, what’s more normal and what’s not.

If most of the nude bodies you’ve seen are on porn, it’s hard to know what’s in the vaguely normal spectrum of bodies and what’s not, so here goes…

  •  Penises – “Penises are as unique as the people they hang from. There’s no such thing as a bad shape or size — just bad information on how to use it”. They can be curved, upward/downward, C-shaped or straight, circumcised or not. Check out this funny PG health article on different penis sizes and shapes. FYI flaccid (soft) penis size has little relationship to erect penis size (6).
  •  Vulvas – (the outside part of vaginas): There are about NINE different labia (vaginal ‘lips’) shapes, and variations within those. Colours, shapes and sizes are ALL different, and they keep changing when aroused. Check out this fun PG health article on what real vulva are actually like.
“I think all genders think that (porn) is what sex is. Girls my age feel the need to shave all pubic hair because that’s what is in porn and that is what is considered normal. Boys feel that they should take charge in sexual situations and have to “last” as long as porn stars.” FEMALE, 16, OFLC research
What’s ‘up’ with porn and penis size?

Some young people worry about the size of their penis and porn doesn’t help – porn actors usually have much bigger penises than the average person. FYI the average range in size goes from 9cm (soft) to 13cm (erect). But remember, bigger doesn’t mean better.

Porn and your mates

Some young people who watch a lot of porn say they feel isolated from friends or family. This could be because they’re spending more and more time online, withdrawing from their mates, and they may be too ashamed to tell anyone about their porn habits.

If this is you and you want someone to talk to, CLICK HERE for Tips on convos with whānau or talk to the pros HERE

CHECK OUT THESE COOL APPS!!

There are lots of apps or IG profiles now to help you manage your mental health, stress or sleep issues. Check out:
Smiling Mind
Headspace
Mentamia
Happy not perfect and ‘Calm’ profile on IG.

Porn & sleep

A lot of people start watching porn at night to help de-stress and get to sleep. It may help at first, but when you end up relying on it to de-stress before bed, it can become a hard habit to kick. Other young people end up staying up later than planned to watch porn.

Either way, random fact… “Using devices before bed can delay your body’s internal clock , suppress the release of sleep-inducing hormones and make it difficult to fall or stay asleep(7). Okay wow.

Research tells us that people from cultures or faiths where porn is a ‘no-no’ often feel more shame and guilt about their porn use – regardless of how much (or little) they watch!

Tips & tools

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Mental Health

Porn can affect our mental health in lots of different ways, so here’s some simple tips that can help…

Body Image

Watching lots of porn can be brutal on body image – seriously, in real life everyone’s ‘down below bits’ are super different. Here’s tips to help…

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