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Here’s five quick things to ask yourself before you hit SEND…
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Feeling pressure to send nudes?
If you’ve been asked to share a nude by someone, but don’t want to, here’s some tips and tricks…
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Received a nude you didn’t want?
Receiving a random nude might seem funny for some people, but for others it can feel really crap. If that’s you, here’s some steps to help you out…
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Regret sending a nude?
Some people send nudes and it’s all good times for them – but that’s not the case for everyone. If you’ve got regrets, here’s some tips to help…
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INFO
What is a Nude?
A nude is the term used to describe a photo of a person showing part or all of their nude body. The term is also used alongside ‘sexting’ which is used to describe sending ‘nudes’, ‘underwear shots’ ‘dirty pics’ or sexual text messages or videos.
Can I send someone my own nude without asking them first?
- If you’re thinking of sending a nude to someone – you need to check they want it before you hit send.
- Once you send a nude, you’ve lost control of it – and it can be easily shared/posted and difficult to remove, so check out thinking about sending a nude
- If you’re over 16yrs and send a surprise nude to someone under 16yrs – you can get yourself in a bit of a legal jam because this is illegal under the New Zealand law.
- If you send nudes to someone who doesn’t want to receive them – this could be counted as ‘harassment’ under The Harmful Digital Communications Act.
- If you’ve already sent a nude to someone without asking them and are freaking out – talk to Netsafe, they’re the pros and can offer free confidential advice.
Interesting Fact: A NZ Netsafe study showed that females were more likely to report unwanted digital communication than males – and non-heterosexual young adults were more likely to be targeted.

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Can I share someone else’s nudes/videos?
If you want to share or trade someone else’s nudes, here’s some things to consider before you press SEND:
- Consent – Be 100% sure the person has said okay (given their full consent) before you share.
- Once you’ve hit SEND, you can’t unsend it – If the person in the pic hasn’t given consent, it can be super damaging for them. And you. Word can get out, people can be hurt, a lot of damage can be done, and people can talk smack . They can also contact whoever they want – your family, your teachers or the police to try and get it removed.
- Regret – Even if the person consents at the time, they also might regret it later. Nudes are super personal and its really common for people to change their mind or regret sending nudes. So, if you want to play it safe, don’t share.
- Age Alert – Sharing nudes with anyone under 16; if you’re 16 or over; or if the person in the pic is under 16 is illegal under the harmful digital communications act. If you’ve already done this, contact Netsafe for help.
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“I think that there is a high pressure to post revealing pictures – just to fit in or to show our bodies in order to get likes or get friends or boyfriends”
Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020

What if I’ve already shared someone’s nude without their consent?
If you have shared a nude of someone without their consent, here’s some steps you can take:
- Delete the nude immediately.
- Contact the people/platforms you’ve shared it with and ask them to delete it.
- Contact Netsafe if you can’t take it down yourself for confidential information and support.
- Talk to a trusted friend or adult to support you.

Can I get my nude removed from a site?
Most sites have great policies around someone posting images without your consent.
For e.g. Twitter, Instagram and YouTube have procedures in place and will generally remove a pic/video if it’s found to be ‘abuse’ or ‘sensitive imagery’ which violates their policies. Screenshot where you’ve seen it and save the URLs.
Here’s some links to reporting sections:
“I think that there is a high pressure to post revealing pictures – just to fit in or to show our bodies in order to get likes or get friends or boyfriends”
Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020
How do I safely send a nude/video?
If you’re sure you want to send a nude, you’ve considered all the points in thinking about sending nudes and you trust the person you’re sending it to (now and later), then there’s a few things you can do to lower the risks…
- Firstly, keep your face out of the pic. This way, if it ends up being shared, other people may not know it’s you.
- Make sure there’s nothing in the image that identifies you like your room, your house, your clothing or a mirror in the background (duh).
- Tell the person you send it to that you don’t want (consent to) it being shared with anyone or posted anywhere. This might still happen, but it’s good to be clear.

What’s “revenge porn”?
“Revenge porn” is a term used when someone shares a nude or video without the person’s consent or is using it against them, to control them, to bully them, as blackmail or as a threat. People with a physical disability and LGBTIQ+ young people are more likely to experience revenge porn, which is not okay(8).
If this sounds like what you’re experiencing, talk to a trusted friend immediately and call the Pros at Netsafe and they can help support you and talk though options. For LGBTIQ+ friendly services reach out to Rainbow YOUTH and OUTline.
“If nude images do get leaked, who can we go to? Parents are often very disappointed – even though it was most likely pressured.” —Anon youth, TLP Survey 2020
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HELP
1737
If you’re feeling anxious, down or overwhelmed, 1737 offers a free confidential call or text line with trained counsellors 24/7.
Text: 1737
www.1737.org.nz
Safe to Talk
If you’ve been affected by sexual harm or are worried about your own behaviour, Safe to Talk provide great 24/7 confidential non-judgmental support and advice with trained counsellors.
Anonymous online chat 24/7.
Freephone: 0800 044 334
Text: 4334
Website/online chat: www.safetotalk.nz
Email: [email protected]
What’s up?
Whatsup helps young people with heaps of issues like dating, sex, porn, bullying or anxiety. Confidential online chat: 3 -10pm. Freephone counsellors 12-11pm weekdays and 3-11pm on weekends.
Freephone: 0800WHATSUP
www.whatsup.co.nz
YOUTHLINE
24/7 free service designed just for youth. You can call or text to talk about big or small stuff.
Anonymous online chat 7-10pm.
Freephone: 0800 376 633
Text: 234
www.youthline.co.nz
NETSAFE
Netsafe is a free confidential 24/7 online safety helpline that offers support, legal info and advice on online issues.
Freephone:
0508 NETSAFE
Text: 4284
8am-8pm weekdays
9am-5pm weekends.
Online report: Reporting Harmful Content
Website: netsafe.org.nz
Experts tell us that simply talking through our uncomfortable experiences and putting our feelings into words, it can help process what’s happened and can even change our emotional reactions to it. Wow.