Posting sexual content online can feel like a great side hustle, and a quick way to earn cash... There’s no shame in wanting to try it out – but it’s good to get the full picture before jumping into anything.
TIPS & TOOLS
Feeling pressure to create sexual content?
Some people can feel pressured by a partner, friend or hook-up to make or share sexual content. This can be coercion, saying things like “If you love me you’d let me film you…” or even a straight-up threat like “If you don’t let me use this vid, I’m going to send it to your friends”.
Any kind of pressure is not okay. Your sexual images belong to you and should never ever be given to anyone without your 100% full, free and informed consent.Up next: Money for content?...
Someone offering you money for sexual content?
There are people who buy and sell sexual content for their job. They may offer signed consent forms so it all looks legit, but things can get tricky… If there’s not a clear contract, they ‘own’ your images and can do what they want with them – and you may not be able to get them removed.
Cash for your pics now could be a headache and personal price to pay later on – so make sure you do some research before you sign up!Up next: Content the only way...
Creating sexual content feel like your ‘only option’?
Sometimes creating sexual content can feel like the only way to pay the bills. If that’s you, that can be rough. There’s some support services that may be able to help such as WINZ’s “check what you get” tool, that tells you if you can get any government support, which can be an awesome short-term solution if you’re broke.
It might also help to talk about your situation with a friend or family member. They may be able to help you or support you with looking for jobs through Seek, TradeMe or Student Job Search (if you’re a student).Up next: Content been leaked?...
My content has been leaked – how do I tell my family/friends?
It can feel tricky to tell someone you’ve created sexual content, especially if you’re worried they’ll judge you. Remember there’s no shame – everyone makes calls based on what’s going on for them at the time, and some things work out and some don’t.
It’s good to get support from someone you can trust, so here’s a convo starter you can call, text or DM to break the ice…Read moreUp next: Worried about a mate...
Worried about a friend making sexual content?
If you have a friend who might be pressured into creating content OR jumping into it without fully understanding the risks, it’s great that you’re here reading this! There’s some simple things you can do to help out like…Read moreUp next: Need some help?...
Need help getting something taken down?
If your content has ended up going viral or in places you don’t want, contact Netsafe – they’re the experts at this.
“No one ever talked to me about boundaries or what it would be like, people just said that I would make so much money. But the money was not as good as I thought.” – NZ modelUp next: Your family asking?...
Someone in your family asking you to make sexual content?
If any family member involved in making sexual content is under 18, this is illegal – so if you are being asked to make stuff, contact someone you trust urgently and/or the police.
If you’re over 18 and your family is asking you to film sexual stuff – there may be an issue of whether your consent is being ‘freely given’ as there are often power plays in families that can make this really complicated. Contact Safe to Talk for some confidential advice.
When someone is forcing you, without your consent to create sexual content (photos, hooking up, vids, camming), regardless of your age, that is illegal. If this is happening to you, speak with someone you trust urgently and contact the police or Safe to Talk.Up next: Pressure to create?...
“Hi there, I posted stuff online that hasn’t ended well – I want to tell you about it, but I’m embarrassed. If I tell you, can you please not judge?.” Then when they reply, fill them in e.g. “I made some sexual pics and posted them to try and make some money. I thought it was all safe, but they’ve been leaked and I need help.”
- Chat through the Things to Consider before they sign up for anything.
- Talk about ‘the why’ behind their decision, to make sure it’s the right call for them or they’re not being pressured.
- Go through the checklist together to make sure they understand the risks.
- Offer to help them check out the site/buyer and review the contract.
- Be a listening ear and support your friend as they weigh up the decision.
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